[sleeplady.com] Help! My Toddler is Waking and Screaming at Night! – Video
Hi. I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady, and in this video I’m going to answer Natalie’s question she posted on Facebook about her toddler waking and screaming at night.
Here’s what she said:
Hi there. My 19-month-old goes to bed fine, but he is waking and screaming at night until he comes into my bed. He’s a big boy and it’s killing my back, but I can’t resettle him in his cot. Any tips?
Too Sleepy At Bedtime
Natalie, thanks for sending me this question. Usually when I see a child, particularly a toddler, who wakes up several times during the night but doesn’t have any trouble at bedtime, I find they are usually being put into bed too sleepy.
Hear me out on this one. I know a lot of parents say, “No, I promise you, Kim. He looks at me, rolls over, and he talks for a couple of minutes and he goes to sleep.”
Bedtime is the easiest time to put yourself to sleep. So, if he doesn’t have the skill of putting himself to sleep mastered from a wakeful state, then he won’t be able to apply it in the middle of the night. This is especially true as he becomes less and less tired as the night goes on.
Check Naptime and Bedtime
The other thing to check on is his naptime and bedtime. I want to make sure that he’s having a solid afternoon nap for his age, and that his bedtime is early enough.
At 19 months he’s probably on one nap. It should be anywhere from an hour and a half to two and a half hours. Depending on the length of the nap, his bedtime might be anywhere from 7 to 8 pm. This time will, of course, depend on his nap.
Put Him Down Completely Awake
As a reminder, you want him to be completely awake when he goes into his cot. He should be dry, fed, warm, loved, and then into his cot.
If you put him in more awake than you have in the past and he starts to cry more than he’s ever done before, then say to yourself, “aha, he was too sleepy before!”
Practice the Shuffle
At this point, if you’ve left the room, it’s okay to go back into the room. Sit next to his cot, offer physical and verbal reassurance until he’s asleep, and then leave. Don’t do anything like hand-holding or rubbing his hands, or singing or humming him to sleep, because it will create a new problem to solve. The “rules” of the Shuffle are outlined fully in my book.
Every time he wakes up and stands in his crib, you should sit down next to the crib, and encourage him to lie down. Don’t lay him down. Stay near him until he’s asleep.
Keep At It
If you start The Shuffle, then spend the first three nights next to the cot. Then, you’re going to move to the doorway. Then move to the hall in his view, and then out of view. If it’s a really big room, you can skip the middle position between the cot and the doorway.
Don’t Create A New Sleep Crutch
Make sure that while you’re sleep coaching you don’t start touching, talking, singing, or humming him to sleep. When you go to the crib side initially, don’t pick him up. Encourage him to lie down himself, and then you return to your chair position and verbally reassure him.
The rules for the Sleep Lady Shuffle are all outlined in my book, Good Night, Sleep Tight. You can also work with one of my coaches or enroll in Gentle Sleep Solutions. I hope that helps you, Natalie.
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